There are a lot of benefits of living with roommates. For many, it can be a more cost-effective way to experience apartment living. Living with roommates also means sharing household chores and responsibilities. It can be a great way to build friendships.
But not all roommate situations work out. Sometimes personality conflicts just can’t be resolved, and going separate ways is the only option. If living with certain roommates isn't working for you anymore and you need to move out, here are a few ways to end the relationship and remain civil.
Living with roommates requires constant and intentional communication. You may do things that bother them, and they may do things that bother you, and it’s important to be upfront and honest about these things. By communicating your expectations and concerns when they arrive, you might be able to avoid the stressful and inconvenient process of moving out. A simple conversation may be enough to stop annoying or disrespectful behavior and allow everyone to live in peace.
Stick To The Facts
If you’ve had conversations about the living arrangements and it’s still not working out, it may be time to discuss new living arrangements. The conversation won’t be fun, but it will be easier if you stick to the facts. Instead of name-calling or getting personal, focus on how your roommate's actions have made you feel.
If you’ve been documenting the behavior, use it as proof to validate your points. Listen to their grievances, honor their feelings, and don’t interrupt. When the conversation starts feeling like an argument, reel it back and stick to the truth.
Do It Early
As soon as you’ve decided to leave, let your roommates know. This will give everyone time to adjust to the new living arrangements and make the next right steps. Two weeks' notice is the bare minimum, but if possible, give four weeks' notice.
Bring It To The Office
Once you’ve had the conversation with your roommates, it’s time to make it official at the office. Breaking your lease can be a costly and inconvenient process, but sometimes it is the only option when you can’t live with your current roommates anymore. You’ll have to give the leasing office written notification that you’re moving out. In California, there are four justifiable reasons for breaking your lease:
You or a Family Member Are a Victim of Domestic Violence or Other Specified Crime
You Are Starting Active Military Duty
The Rental Unit Is Unsafe or Violates California Health or Safety Codes
Your Landlord Harasses You or Violates Your Privacy Rights
If breaking your lease doesn’t fall under these reasons, you could be responsible for paying the remaining rent for the lease term. Check your contract about what to expect if you move out early and brainstorm all possible ways to stick it out until your lease is over
The Bottom Line
Breaking up is hard to do. It can be awkward, expensive, and stressful. But prioritizing your mental health is a priority, and your apartment should be a space where you feel calm, safe, and secure. If you’re on the hunt for a new apartment to rent in West LA, take a virtual tour of NMS 1759 Beloit right now.